After a death, you may initially feel shocked, numb, guilty, angry, afraid and full of pain. These feelings may change to longing, sadness, loneliness - even hopelessness and fear about the future.
These feelings are not unnatural or wrong. They are all normal reactions to what may be the most difficult experience of your life. Over time, these feelings should lessen. Every person's experience of grief is unique and influenced by personal circumstances.
We understand how difficult it can be to speak to someone about your feelings. Please don’t worry if you are nervous or upset. Just take your time. There is no rush. Talking to Cruse provides an opportunity to talk about grief in a safe and understanding way. Our volunteers are trained to listen.
We offer bereavement support for anyone who is bereaved, regardless of age, disability, gender, race, religion, or sexual orientation, and no matter whenever or however the death occurred.
Our Bereavement Support Volunteers are drawn from different backgrounds who undergo special training in the process of grieving and working with bereaved people. Some have undergone more specialised training to enable them to work with all areas of bereavement including suicide, sudden death, the death of a child, stillbirth, neonatal and miscarriage. Our volunteers are also trained to work in with bereaved prisoners. They receive ongoing training in their work. All volunteers have police checks carried out on them.
All Bereavement volunteers receive regular independent supervision and abide by the code of ethics of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP). We are affiliated with the national charity Cruse Bereavement Care.
One-to-one sessions with a Bereavement Support Volunteer
Our Bereavement Support Volunteers are professionally trained to the highest Cruse national standards. Anything you share with them is entirely confidential. Volunteers must attend meetings where their work is supervised, to make sure you are getting the best care.
The volunteer is there to listen and help you work through your grief; there is no limit on how many sessions you can have. Cruse uses counselling to help you find your personal way through grief.
Meetings with the volunteer can be in the office in Cruse Office in Onchan or in your own home.
Children and Young People
We offer one-to-one support for children and young people, as well as an annual residential weekend and regular social activities through our CruzKids groups.
Bereavement support groups
These are groups of people who may have experienced similar bereavement problems. You are able to talk things over together with the help of experienced Bereavement Support Volunteers. The groups can only run if there are enough members. If no group is available you will be offered one to one support.
Advice and support
We offer advice and support for all including (but not limited to) individuals, groups, corporate organisations, parents, carers, relatives, friends and family.
Bereavement awareness sessions
We offer bereavement awareness sessions for organisations, schools and youth organisations.
We have bereavement support information at our local office including leaflets and books. You can also view the national Cruse website for information.
There is no charge for these services although donations are very welcome.